It’s 6.30 am… “Assalum Alaikum”, peace be with you, I greet as I pass the bedroom door. Our eyes lock momentarily, and i see sadness… I hurriedly shuffle along. Whether it was because I had a sense that something i was not prepared for was happening, or I was afraid you were going to see the worry in my eyes…that was the last time I got a glimpse into the window of your soul. Three days later and the curtains were drawn on that window… Forever!
My confidant, my doctor, my babysitter, my nurse, my chef, my caregiver, my therapist, my advisor, my friend… My mother! Life has not been the same since the Almighty called you home. Thoughts and memories still flood my mind, ebbing and flowing like the tides. Some bring about an overwhelming sadness while others, a joyous smile followed by infectious laughter. It’s been a long and treacherous road without you… you were the glue that held so many pieces together.
With your death came acceptance and understanding. Accepting that it was the Qadr of Allah and understanding that we live to die. Death is inevitable.
Death leaves in its wake a trail of broken hearts, grief-stricken loved ones, shattered dreams, and a relentless hope that the road ahead will be filled with light. Some of us see the light, and others feel trapped with no escape. May Allah Subhana Wa’Tala make it easy for all of us. Ameen.
Your untimely exit from this Dunya opened the door to reflection and introspection for me. Who am I? Why am I here? How am I going to navigate through life without you in it? Those words constantly echoed in my mind. I did not have the answers, but it’s as if I could hear your voice…”Maak jou voete nat en vra an vir Allah om jou te help” (Go take wudhu, make salah and ask Allah to help you) lol you always had a knack for saying it how it is. However…that was an area which I gravely neglected, making salah.
Needless to say, I consciously took that step. Bowing in prostration, crying out to my Lord. Ya Rabb! Grant me the strength to deal with my grief and sadness. The courage to face the world and to be brave for my family even while my heart is broken. Oh Allah, you are Al-Jabbar, the mender of hearts, so restore my heart and purify it.
In time to come, this is where I found my solace. Salah.
Almost two years later, looking back, it is evident that Allah SWT took you from me and, in doing that, brought me closer to Him. Subhanallah. Seeking guidance through patience and prayer has become a way of life for me. Too often, we become so fixated on what we perceive as chaos and our world ‘falling apart’ that we forget Allah is with those who are patient.We have no control over anything And Allah’s timing is always perfect. So a little bit of sabr goes a long way…
Walking this journey of self-improvement and development is not an easy task and definitely not bereft of hardship. But Alhamdulilah, through the mercy of Allah, I remain steadfast in the belief that with difficulty comes ease (94:6). Allah does not burden a soul with more than it can bear (2:286).
As I embark on my quest to seek knowledge that will be beneficial for me in this life and the next, i ask the Almighty to always guide and protect me on this path. We come into this world with a backpack of tools, namely Salah, Quran, Thikrullah, Duahs, etc. These tools are a source of guidanceĀ for me. When life gets too much, this is what i use to silence the chaos. Herein, I found the secrets to contentment of the heart…
I am merely a traveler passing through this Dunya, with my backpack, to an Akhirah that has been promised.